Love should be enough
November 8, 2008 
A little note, an opinion piece if you will, on gay marriage everywhere and specifically in regard to Prop 8:
I don’t understand. I simply don’t understand why people voted yes on this. I don’t understand how anyone in good conscious can vote for something that is officially defined as restricting someone’s rights, on something that singles out a group of people and thereby classifies them only to deny them rights that everyone else is granted.
I don’t understand how this happened in the state of California of all places, in a country that has just shown the world what progress and an open mind means.
If two people love each other and would like to officially seal that bond by the union generally called marriage, that love should be reason enough because that love should really ever be the only reason for two people to get married; there should be no questions asked.
Love and sexual love between two people of the same sex has existed since the beginning of time. A couple of centuries ago, someone somewhere decided that this love was a disorder and they needed a term to describe the disorder: homosexuality. And suddenly love between two people of the same sex was an issue, something supposedly out of the ordinary, something shameful; something that has been engraved as essentially evil in too many minds already. This process needs to stop.
If you do disagree with homosexuality for whatever reason that is your choice but I still don’t understand why you think it is your business how two people chose to celebrate their love? It doesn’t affect you in any way, you can still live your life the way you please since you do have all the rights in the world to do so. Why can’t you accept that different views matter and that all voices should be heard and that homosexuality is in human nature just as heterosexuality is?
Why can’t you say, I don’t agree with same-sex sexuality but I am pro-love? What reason do you have to keep two people from being happy? What motivates you to get involved in something that won’t do you any harm but will change constitutional laws for the worse for many of your fellow citizens?
I don’t understand. It’s not fair. And I hope this will be rectified somehow, that those last votes still being counted somehow make a difference. I think of all of you out there who see their plans of marriage slip away and of those who can’t get rid of that tragic, terrible image in their head: of returning their wedding rings. I think of all of you and I hope for the best because that is all I can do right now. My heart breaks for you.
No to Proposition 8. Yes to love. Yes to equality.
Nikki said:
I’m definitely with you on this one. I just don’t get it. I was brought up in a household where I was taught that everyone was equal regardless of skin color, sexual orientation, or whatever. I do not at all understand why civil rights is even an issue. I can’t fathom it. It should not be allowed, and yet people feel like they have every right to tell me I’m a second class citizen.
I am not anything other than who I am, and that is just as good, just as equal, just as entitled to equal rights as everyone else. That’s me.
Thanks for sharing your point of view. It’s a good read. And thanks for letting me know you posted this! I appreciate it.
Rachie said:
Some of my friends were going to get married and now they can’t. It is really upsetting.